I do not feel this way towards my mother specifically, but I do think this applies to females who were influential in my life. I know I have seen this process in action affecting the views of impressionable young minds seeking guidance from others. Mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, teachers, peers, friends….role models….we don’t always think we are as influential as we are (perhaps part of the cycle of self hatred as well), but someone is always paying more attention than you might be (or want to be) aware of. This article is amazingly written and makes me realize that we can all take a few steps towards helping break a vicious cycle….
“When Your Mother Says She’s Fat”
By Kasey Edwards
June 23, 2013
I was 7 when I discovered that you were fat, ugly, and horrible. Up until that point I had believed that you were beautiful—in every sense of the word. I remember flicking through old photo albums and staring at pictures of you standing on the deck of a boat. Your white strapless bathing suit looked so glamorous, just like a movie star. Whenever I had the chance I’d pull out that wondrous white bathing suit hidden in your bottom drawer and imagine a time when I’d be big enough to wear it; when I’d be like you.
But all of that changed when, one night, we were dressed up for a party and you said to me, ‘‘Look at you, so thin, beautiful, and lovely. And look at me, fat, ugly, and horrible.’’
At first I didn’t understand what you meant.
‘‘You’re not fat,’’ I said earnestly and innocently, and you replied, ‘‘Yes I am, darling. I’ve always been fat; even as a child.’’
In the days that followed I had some painful revelations that have shaped my whole life. I learned that: …FULL ARTICLE HERE